Letting Go

Every civilization has its own rites of passage, a milestone recorded and achieved to mark the entry of a child to manhood. Some have violent forms while others have small rituals.

For me, it was riding a bicycle.

It was a testament that I could take off anytime I want to go anywhere I could; that is, of course, provided my brothers let me use their bikes.

I had 3 older brothers so you can imagine how great the condition was of my hand-me-down bike. Still, it did not deter me from pushing myself hard to learn how to ride it. I knew that if I didn’t get to know how, I wouldn’t be included in the roster of who gets to use what. Scrapes and bruises, broken toes and falling down, I willed myself to learn it … until I did.

It’s the same character I wish for my son to have … and at least he didn’t have to wait for 3 other guys to get the chance.

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Neo: I can do it, Dad! I can do it!
Me: Yes I know, Neo, now be sure to use the break!
Neo: Yes, Dad!

At point I hugged him tight and could not believe how fast he’s grown in the past 4 years. It wasn’t too long ago — as the parental cliche goes — that he was still a baby. And now here he is driving past me and ready to go anytime he wants to anywhere he could. I held him tighter.

Neo: Let go, Dad! I need to ride. I’ll be fast like this, zoooom! Daaaaad, let go, Dad.
Me: In time, my son, in time …

I’m such a fucking girl.

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About Asmartrock

N. Mark Castro is the Southeast Asia Director of JUMP DIGITAL Asia, which is an internationally-awarded and fully integrated digital marketing agency with 5 out of 10 offices in the ASEAN region. He is also the Secretary General of the Philippine Business Club Indonesia, managing and assisting the traffic of investments between the Philippines and Indonesia. He shuttles between Indonesia, Philippines, Myanmar, Singapore, Cambodia, and Australia. The views posted here are his own and do not in any way reflect the views of the companies he represents.

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