Ama: A Father’s Tale

By N Mark Castro

How One Generation Loves … The Next Generation Learns.

There are few things on any subject that I am reluctant to speak or write about … fatherhood is one of them, but, every so often, it needs to be addressed.


The holidays are always one of the toughest times to balance moderation and excess for children.

  1. What do we buy them?
  2. How many do we buy?
  3. And for how much?
  4. Do we go with Santa?
  5. Or the baby Jesus?

There are more questions than answers since fatherhood — or parenthood — doesn’t come with an instruction book. And so, often, we draw from our own childhood experiences and dredge up all those feelings of “want” that were never fulfilled. We carry the baggage from one generation to another, repeating the same cycle yet hoping for things to turn out differently.

But if you manage to do it right … there’s a whole world of possibilities that you can pass one of the greatest lessons in life.

And allow you to give a better perspective on the things we leave behind … the true of a parent, and not some weekend father that displays it for the world to see yet pronounces more of his weaknesses rather than his presence.

Because if you do it right … you will learn the true joys of fatherhood doesn’t come from Facebook pictures but from the memories you’ve built in their hearts.

Father and Son will always have their differences. It’s in their nature: as the children assert their independence, and the father lets go his control.

With Papa


And yet both will always hope that wherever you go, whatever you do … know that you have been loved.




About Asmartrock

N. Mark Castro is the Southeast Asia Director of JUMP DIGITAL Asia, which is an internationally-awarded and fully integrated digital marketing agency with 5 out of 10 offices in the ASEAN region. He is also the Secretary General of the Philippine Business Club Indonesia, managing and assisting the traffic of investments between the Philippines and Indonesia. He shuttles between Indonesia, Philippines, Myanmar, Singapore, Cambodia, and Australia. The views posted here are his own and do not in any way reflect the views of the companies he represents.

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